Friday, April 27, 2012


Woah. I have heard people talk about how stressful prom is but now that I'm a junior, I finally understand.

My dress and shoes were easy to find. I got my dress online fairly quickly and despite buying a different dress and going dress shopping with my mom about three times, that step was moderately stress free. To get my shoes, I brought my dress to the shoe department at Bloomingdale's and bought the first pair that I tried on.

These are them! I haven't finalized my accessories but I know that they will be gold and simple.

The only problem is that these are the only things that have been planned. For example, I don't have a date (and I've more or less given up on that hope) and tickets are only on sale next week. You want to know the saddest thing? I almost feel guilty about wanting a date. Maybe guilty isn't the best word... I feel like I'm betraying some false perception that people have of me. To give an example of that, a good friend of mine was shocked to hear that I want a date because I'm a feminist or something. Wow, really? 1. caring about gender equality doesn't make someone an aspiring cat lady or freak  and 2. I'm 17, it's prom, do the math. The way I wrote that brings up another problem— I'm too harsh. I am fully aware that I come off that way but I almost can't help it! ...Almost. Yes, I could stop sharing my opinions but what fun would that be? Maybe I won't get a date to prom because I like substantive discussion and I'm not afraid to stand up for what I believe in (or maybe that's totally not the reason) but at least I'm going to look great unique. I don't know where this is supposed to be going.

Also, no duh, I did my nails. I'm boring. Maybe that's why I don't have a date. And mom, if you're reading this, I don't want to go with one of your friends' sons.

Wondering why this picture is so much better than the other ones? It's because I got an iPhone!


  1. Dearest Anisa,

    What came to my mind, when reading your thoughts, is: 'WHY the heck do you need ANYONE but YOURSELF to go to the Prom? Who defined that in order to be 'normal' or 'cool' or 'whole' you have to come with a 'Date'?

    Why can you not go with your fabulous, wonderful, beautiful Self. Own the very presence you bring. Meet up with your friends (others who don't have a 'date') and do not even let the thought 'I'm here alone' enter your mind! You are never alone!

    You are such a beautiful humanbeing: you don't 'need' a 'date' to complete that gorgeous look you created. Keep enjoying every single second of this exciting time. OWN your experience

    1. Sorry, got sent before I finished...

      Own your experience, make wonderful memories, have LOADS of fun (with friends who have & don't have 'dates'), take lots of pictures, so that when you look back 5, 10, 20, 50 years from now, you can say to your daughter, grand daughter, great-grand-duaghter: Just be YOURSELF! They'll believe you!

      Love & respect you darling,
      Muni, xox